Psychological Changes

We talk about psychological changes, and how to deal with adventures in new disorders.

  • Everyone is depressed and anxious when you hear about the cancer.
  • Mania is common: Maybe channel it into something productive-ish?
  • Insomnia makes you crazy. Do what you have to for a good night’s sleep a few times a week.
  • YOU NEED THERAPY if you or someone you love has cancer. Everyone needs therapy.
  • Disassociation is a coping mechanism, and things are just WEIRD in your life. You ARE different, and you are still you.
  • Look for psycho-social resources through your hospital or employer.
  • No one knows what they are doing, and—look at that!— neither do you!
  • Get to know your new stress/depressed/anxious/feels barometer.
  • Try new things: meditation, therapy, reiki, massage, crystals, supplements, CBD oil if available in your state.
  • Eat for comfort and health.
  • Instead of an existential discussion, learn to say “I’m doing fine considering the circumstances” or “I’m in pain, but nothing out of the ordinary”.
  • Make a Reality Committee for phone calls or IRL convos.
  • Authenticity and vulnerability leads to healing.
  • Exercise will make sleep and everything a little better. Do what you can, even if it’s just walking down the street.

Chemotherapy

We talk about chemotherapy and how we dealt with our own.

  • Everyone has a different chemo experience, and it's all pretty boring and unpleasant.
  • Look into intermittent fasting and immunocal.
  • Bring friends and something to do.
  • Plan fun things for your chemo days, like a treat or a show.
  • Find a happy place at the hospital.
  • Drink water.
  • Take the warm blanket! Take two and wrap your arm.
  • Food can help, so maybe talk to a nutritionist.
  • Take it as easy as possible.
  • You are a whole new person now. OUCH! .....YAY!
  • Get out in the world to build your biome.
  • Plant a tree: it might just save a life.

What Did You Just Say?

How do you talk to someone with cancer? Leanna and Mimi discuss.

  • People are going to say dumb things to cancer patients. It is inevitable.
  • People are trying to relate to your worst thing with their worst thing.
  • Supportive silence can be golden
  • Have strategies to end a conversation you don't want to have.
    • Weaponized crying
    • "I really can't talk about this right now"

 

Cancer Branding

What is your cancer brand? Mimi and Leanna discuss how social media can impact your cancer story.

  • The people you invite to the party should bring something to the table.
  • Power outfits for treatments (when else can I dress up like a unicorn?).
  • How you tell your story affects your experience.
  • Sharing your experience with others can help others and can help YOU.

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